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How are we seen?
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2 days ago
I've always enjoyed the idea that my body is a canvas, to be used to portray aspects of myself in a tangible way. However, there is no way to portray all of my morals and values only through appearance. Therefore, it is often that people make incorrect assumptions about me. I myself have learned to enjoy these misconceptions, and enjoy even more having the opportunity to prove those assumptions wrong when given the chance to get to know someone. The lesson I've learned from this additionally is to remember that just like people seeing me are not getting the full story, I'm not getting the full story about the people I see. Perhaps an important part of all of this is that although it is important to take in to account what others see when they look at you, it is most important to love and appreciate what you see when you look in the mirror.
2 days ago
It is interesting to think about how we are seen by ourselves as compared to how we are seen by others. A woman who sees herself as persistent and hard working may be seen by others as bossy and a know-it-all. A man who sees himself as caring and sensitive may be seen by others as weak and unmanly. A child who sees himself as curious and eager to learn may be seen by others as nosy and annoying. We can't all see eye to eye until we clear our mind of prejudice and open up to the world around us.
2 days ago
It completely depends on the situation. When people see me volunteering with refugees, they might see me as a humanitarian. When they see me studying in the library at 3 am, they might see me as a nerd. When they see me at a fraternity party, they might see me as a party animal. It's important to realize we cannot ever fully understand a person-there will always be more to them that we do not yet know or have yet seen. I think this is a great opportunity to reflect on why really can never judge a person.
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