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When Do You Say No?
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6 days ago
I say no when it hurts me or puts me in a bad situation. I try to help others whenever I can, but there comes a tipping point where you can no longer help others if you cannot help yourself and take care of yourself
1 week ago
I attempt to say no whenever I'm sure that's how I feel. When I want to say no, I push myself to discover why I want to say no and encourage myself to keep my thoughts open in order to decide whether or not I really mean no. Sometimes no is just an initial reaction due to fear of the unknown, perceived expectations, negative past experiences, and many other possible discouraging thoughts. When I give myself a chance to reflect on why, I can come to a decision that I am satisfied with. When it turns out that the answer really is no I can feel confident in my answer and say no directly and with unwavering certainty. However, if it turns out that my initial reaction was not appropriate I can comfortably say yes with the same feeling.
1 week ago
I say "no" when I am outside of my comfort zone. I often go out of my way to help others. However, there comes a point where helping others hinders my ability to help myself to the point where I can't commit to helping others. There are also negative impacts of saying no. If you don't help, others will be less inclined to help you.
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